It is finally officially summer in NYC! School just ended on June 26th so I had weeks and weeks to watch sadly as everyone else started their summer without us. People have already gone on week long summer vacations and here we are at only day 2 of our summer. Like everybody, summer is a different dynamic in this house. We go from 1 to 2 children home all day. The boys are too young for summer camp, cabin fever is real and they are usually on their 85th fight by 10am. Meanwhile mama is just trying to enjoy the fact that we finally can go with the flow. But alas these little people have no chill. So how do you find free or inexpensive summer activities for toddlers?
How often do you find yourself scrolling through your timeline and rolling your eyes? Oh girl on Facebook complaining again. Judgey Judith is on twitter worried about what everybody else is doing. Sara Snoops-A-Lot is all up and down the comments on theshaderoom and the stupid Instagram algorithm keeps showing you her comments over and over again. I feel like everywhere, on all platforms we all have friends that we wonder “why are you here?”. And it’s honestly time for us to stop feeling bad about wanting to get rid of them. You deserve to make your social media a happier place.
You need to clean out your social media sis.
Mental health is real. And with the increased time that people spend on these platforms it should go without saying that we should be filling our timelines with things that are going to fulfill us. I’m talking…. less theshaderoom and more heyfranhey. I recently saw a post (on Facebook of course) about a study being done and finding that people who spend less time on social media are happier. *insert eye roll* Well there’s a shocker. If every time I sign on to Facebook I see Barry Badnews sharing the latest tragedy then of course I’m going to be depressed! Take some time today and take these few minutes to clean up your timelines. Your mind will thank you for it.
5 Ways to Make Your Social Media a Happier Place
- Follow accounts that inspire you. I’m not going to lie I still follow theshaderoom on Instagram. But for every ONE theshaderoom there are TEN heyfranhey’s or blackandwell’s. I try to lean more of my focus on accounts that are going to bring positivity rather than the latest tea.
- Remember, it’s the internet. Not everything is as it appears. Some people only share what they want others to see. Some people overshare just to get attention. At the end of the day everyone has their own personal uses for their social media. You can respect that, and still choose not to partake.
- Treat your online space the same as your house. Are you letting anybody into your house that you don’t like? Yea… it’s the same. It’s still your space.
- Be the positivity. Positive energy is contagious! You can’t expect people to be exactly who you are, but sometimes they don’t know any better. If you’re putting out your positive energy you may just inspire others to do the same.
- Delete delete delete. And stop feeling bad about deleting people! Your friend that you haven’t seen since high school that only messages you occassionaly to sell you ItWorks will get over it sis. If you’re going to spend your time online, you might as well spend it with people you enjoy. And if it’s your auntie and em driving you crazy, at least mute or hide them so you don’t have to deal with it on the regular.
The Bottom Line
At the end of the day, making your social media a happier place should be a priority. You can’t control how or what people share but you absolutely have control over what you allow into your space. Fill your timeline with affirmations, people that make you smile, and things that uplift you. Of course you can also choose to stay off social media, take regular breaks or just ignore everyone altogether. Basically what I’m saying is, do what makes you happy sis! Drink your water, mind your business. And don’t forget you’re in control!
Feel like you have a hard time staying happy? Check out this post: 5 Ways to Stay Genuinely Happy When Everything Feels Negative.
This post was sponsored by Tobacco Free New York State as part of an Influencer Activation for Influence Central and all opinions expressed in my post are my own.
I’m gonna admit it ya’ll. I’ve become one of THOSE parents. The parent that’s wondering why all these unaccompanied children are crowding the inside and outside of the store. I’m side-eyeing the junior high kids using “bad words”. The parent that is watching and listening to every single thing that other people’s kids are doing. I can’t help it. I’m protective of our children. So more than I’m annoyed about the fact that they’re in the way while my 4 year old is trying to put his little dollar on the counter for his juice and chips. I’m annoyed that while they’re in there minding their business and buying up the whole store they’re exposed to tobacco products at every freakin’ turn. I’ve SEEN ENOUGH TOBACCO!.
I’m pretty sure I have already told you guys that I suffer from anxiety. Couple that with being an introvert that would rather stay to themselves and the conversations that I have in my head are non-freaking-stop. I’ve learned to cope with it pretty well (and even have tried out some apps that help) but my anxiety and overthinking usually brings another friend along with them. Hello insomnia. Anxiety and a good nights sleep do not couple well. Some nights it seems like no matter how much I try to relax my mind, I cannot turn the switch off in my brain and go to sleep. I’ve come up with some easy and effective methods to calm myself down, shut the switch off and at least get a couple hours of sleep.
Journal before bed – This helps to get the ideas out of my head. I find that if I write down at least some of the trillion things that I am thinking about, they stay out long enough for me to fall asleep. Journaling also helps me remember things because… mommy brain. I come up with some pretty good content ideas when I can’t sleep. Write it down so it’s out of your head.
Listen to music – And then my focus is on one thing. Music has always been one of the ways I was able to get out of my head. We cosleep (unfortunately LOL) so I’m not in the bed doing any late night karaoke. But singing along in my head helps zero in on one thought.
Read until you’re asleep – That probably sounds bad. And I’ll admit I don’t read nearly as much as I used to. But I used to love reading. I’m able to block everything out around me. Just like listening to music it helps my thoughts zero in on a specific thing so I’m not thinking about 8297008980420 other things.
Meditation and Relaxation – This method actually takes a lot more effort for me. Calming myself down is a process. Since meditation involves actively focusing on one thing I have to actually WORK to make this work. But coupled with deep breathing it not only calms my mind but my entire body.
No caffeine a few hours before bed – My insomnia in my 20s used to be WAY worse than it is now. I quickly found out that caffeine any time after 6 is my enemy. I cut out the red bull (I know, don’t judge me) and I make sure to limit my soda/coffee intake. If you already have problems getting to sleep on your own you don’t need any assistance.
These are only a few ideas that help me but when researching I’m sure you can find a ton of other ideas. Aromatherapy, essential oils and weighted blankets are all things I have heard great reviews on but have not tried myself. I do recommend trying out a few different methods and seeing what works for you. Everybody is different, and every night is different. Some nights I can write and go to sleep and some nights I have to try 3 different methods before I am able to calm myself down. Anxiety and a good nights sleep don’t often go hand and hand but it doesn’t have to be crippling. And of course, if you feel like it’s something you cannot manage alone then you should definitely seek professional help.
Do you suffer from anxiety or insomnia? What are some things that help you get to sleep?
We are an Apple house! A little while ago I told you about all the amazing family benefits of iOS 12. Now I want to put you on to an accessory you probably hear about all the time. But seriously, AirPods are the accessory that I never realized I needed! As a mom, I am frequently using headphones. I use them when I’m listening to podcasts, when I’m cleaning, or when my kids have taken over the TV and I want to watch Netflix on my phone and actually be able to hear. AirPods are a mom accessory. They changed the game!
About Apple’s Second Generation AirPods
AirPods revolutionized the wireless audio experience with a breakthrough design and the new AirPods build on the magical experience customers love. The new Apple-designed H1 chip, developed specifically for headphones, delivers performance efficiencies, faster connect times, more talk time and the convenience of hands-free “Hey Siri.”
The new AirPods come with either the standard charging case or the new Wireless Charging Case. Each case holds additional charges for more than 24 hours of total listening time, ensuring AirPods are charged and ready to go whenever you are. The Wireless Charging Case is designed to offer the freedom of wireless charging with Qi-compatible charging solutions. An LED light indicator located on the front of the case conveniently shows the charge status with just a glance.
I’m not sure what it is but I feel like everywhere you turn on social media someone is posting or sharing something that just doesn’t vibrate on a high frequency. I feel like we all have that one Facebook friend that is the constant bearer of bad news. Or the person that comments on everything trying to negate someone else’s opinion. And if thats not the case the state of the country alone is enough to make you want to sleep until everyone gets it the hell together. I have had people comment on how positive I am and even ask what I’m “so happy” about all the time and honestly it’s been a big mental shift that I committed to working on myself. Staying genuinely happy is a decision. And it’s one that I decided to make for myself.