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0 In explore - nyc

We (Almost) Went to the Queens Zoo!

When it comes to getting out the house, we are sloooooooow! Like it takes HOURS for us to leave and there’s only 3 of us. I always say I admire moms with multiple children because I struggle to get just the two of us ready in a timely fashion. 

So when I planned to go to the Queens Zoo the day was no different. I woke up with every intention of getting out early, and making the most of our zoo experience. #FAIL. We got to the zoo at 4:30…… it closes at 5.

Luckily for us, the zoo is in Flushing Meadows Corona Park which is HUGE. Right across from the Queens Zoo they have a small petting zoo, so we walked over there so we would still get to see some animals. 

RJ was super fascinated by the animals and he didn’t wanna leave. I was so disappointed we made it too late for the zoo but it made me look forward to visiting another time. We have GOT to get our time management together! 

How are you ending summer? Do you have any small zoos close to home? How can I get my life together so I’m not late for everything?! LMAO


0 In life

Weaning Woes Pt. 1 I Just Want My Body Back

 Look at the chub! That's probably 90% mommy milk right there!  

Look at the chub! That’s probably 90% mommy milk right there!  

My baby is a big boy. That’s no secret. Everyone comments on how big he is and how tiny I am. I used to love seeing people’s surprised looks when they asked what formula he drank and I could tell them he was breastfed. Yup! That’s ALL ME! *hits dougie*

But …. my baby is a big boy! He’s going on 16 months old and this kid has no desire to give up his milk. Even with eating 3 times a day and snacking we still fight most days to avoid breastfeeding. 

I loved it in the beginning. It was a need no one else could fulfill for him. But he doesn’t necessarily NEED it anymore. I know there are benefits to extended breastfeeding but I’m OVER it. There are also way more benefits to sane mommas… and that matters more. I am at the point where I dread feeding. I literally feel like he’s draining me. He’s already 1/4 of my weight and I’ve got 25 years on him. 

I’m ready to have my body back to myself. And how come no one ever told me about the twiddling?!? Nonstop! He acts like if he doesn’t live with his hand down my shirt.. my boobs may run away and he won’t ever get the milk again. It’s tiring. 

 All day. 

All day. 

I’ve read a hundred million weaning techniques but none of them cut it. I feel like I’m going to have to just cut him off. 

 Seriously I'm not joking. 

Seriously I’m not joking. 

 Lmao his face!  

Lmao his face!  

And let’s not even talk about the toll it’s taking on my wardrobe! The neck of every shirt I own is probably stretched to capacity. He will FIGHT! To get those chubby little fingers in there.  

I love this kid and I love the breastfeeding relationship we’ve had thus far but I’m done. We need a break. I want to be touched a little bit less lol. I just want my body back.  

How long did you breastfeed? What method of weaning worked for you? Is anyone else a slave to their toddler?! LOL   

0 In explore - nyc/ Travel

Trip to the Pumpkin Patch! – F& W Schmitt Family Farm

We got to go to the pumpkin patch this weekend and I was super excited! It was almost perfect fall weather (the wind was REAL) and I hadn’t had an excuse to go before RJ so of course I was ready for October to get here!

That’s my “Why are we always late?” face. We got to Schmitt Farms around 3:30pm and they close at 5 so I was nervous about not having enough time to see everything that I … I mean RJ… wanted to see. Of course my battery died so I didn’t get to take pictures, but my boyfriend got some great ones.

Schmitt Family Farm is located in Melville Long Island. Other than a pumpkin/vegetable patch, they have a petting zoo, pony rides, airbrush tattoos/face painting, multiple inflatables and a playground. I am super upset about my phone dying because I didn’t get to capture pictures of everything that we did but I can say that everything was super reasonably priced ($3 for the petting zoo, $0.74/pound per pumpkin and free hayride!) and it was busy so I can imagine it’s the go-to farm if you are in the NYC/Long Island area and aren’t looking to travel upstate. I also heard pricing-wise it is more reasonably priced than another farm local to it, but that’s only hearsay since I haven’t been there. My family enjoyed it, even my boyfriend who was resistant at first! I can’t wait to go back next year!

Check it out: F&W Schmitt Family Farm.

Do you have any fall family traditions? What’s your favorite fall acitivity?

0 In life

I’m More Than Just My Son’s Mother

I feel like you judged me from the title alone. Oh well. This is real.

A few weeks ago someone said to me “Tanay you’re such a good mom.” and I was all “Really? Me? You think so?”… The response was “Yea.. you’re always with RJ I don’t really see you going out and partying all the time you just stay with him”. At the time I was like “Yea girl thanks!”… But it’s replayed in my head a couple annoying times and it’s made me feel “some typa way.”

I love my son more than I could ever imagine loving another person. It’s a mom thing. Everyone tells you it’s going to happen but you don’t understand it in it’s true capacity until it actually does. This little boy fills my heart to the tipping point. What I don’t love? Being JUST his mom. It’s almost as if my identity disappeared the moment I became “RJs mom”. And don’t get me wrong I love all aspects of being his mommy and all the things I haven’t experienced yet (I actually tell people all the time I can’t wait until he’s in school and his friends run up to me and yell “HI RJS MOM”) but who else am I? 

To me it doesn’t make sense to look back to the person I was before I became his mother. She’s gone. Being a mom changes you completely and that’s ok. But should it engulf you? I don’t think so. I don’t want to be “RJs Mom” to my peers. I’m still Tanay. I’m 25. I like to do things other than watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Jake and the Neverland Pirates. I don’t have to go out ALL the time but me staying home all the time doesn’t induct me into the good mom club. It just further reminds me that I need to take a moment…… or three. I can step away for a minute or two from being RJs mom and be Tanay. Do things that make me happy. His sweet smell and cute smile will always be there when I come home.

What are some things you enjoy doing outside of motherhood? How often do you take time to step away and reconnect with yourself?