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5 Youtube Families That Take the Ratchet Out of “Reality TV”

Ratchet TV used to be a guilty pleasure of mine but now, passed Love and Hip Hop I just can’t get with the constant drama. Reality TV seems to bring out the worst of the worst in people and it gets exhausting seeing minorities (and even non-minorities) showing their typical a** (thats what my grandma would say) on national TV! C’mon son! We gotta do better! 

I freakin’ LOVE YouTube! You can literally find anything on that jawn and I LOVE watching family vloggers! It’s nice to take a break from ratchet reality and see people living out their real lives, minus the drama, & just spreading the love! 

Gabe and Chad of GabeBabeTV

Probably one of the most positive couples on the Tube, Gabrielle and Chad (along with Chad Jr. and O-face) are two of the most inspiring people to watch. Love, life and laughter radiate throughout their daily vlogs and they make it a point to share the positive with their “peeps”. If ever you’re having a bad day this is the family to watch to cheer you up!

Jamie and Nikki of JamieandNiks 

If you’ve never wanted to visit Australia before, Jamie and Nikki will change that for you! Jamie’s video editing and time lapses alone makes the vlogs interesting but now they’re sharing their journey as new parents to their baby girl Ava. This couple is just as beautiful on the inside as they are on the outside and that probably contributed to their fast subscriber growth over the passed year or so. Oh, and can’t forget to mention the Prince of the vlogs, hey Loius! 

Tiffany and TJ of the Daily Davidsons

From the pink room to baby number 3 (& house number two!) these two have their Darlyns and Day1s screaming #GOALS in the comment section of EVERY vlog! don’t know about anyone else but I have a hard time finding positive, young, black couples and I think it makes them unique in a sense (a lot of the bigger YouTube vloggers are either interracial or Caucasian). Plus from the TJisms to their three adorable boys, their channel is ADDICTING. If you can’t resist cure kids don’t do it, but do it! 😉

Patricia and Mike of BritpopLifeVlogs (The Bright Side)

If you get addicted to vlogs like I do, then you’ll be sitting with your phone in hand waiting on an update from Patricia and Mike. All the previous vloggers mentioned have a consistent/daily vlog schedule and that’s something they don’t have. But when they do upload it’s always worth the wait! Plus, new baby Grace is such a sweetheart! I’ve loved watching their family grow and Patricia’s blunt honesty about every step of her journey into motherhood. They are always up front with their viewers about what they are and are not comfortable with sharing and I think since becoming parent’s they’ve become a lot more open with their viewers. 

Latoya and Adam of Latoya’s Life

So if you ever watched one of Latoya’s vlogs in passing and then you read this title then you probably did a double take like… huh? LOL. Latoya’s life definitely brings the drama but it’s been pretty calm over on her channel since “Pumps” has been born and even before then you couldn’t help but notice the love from her family radiating all over her channel! Family love always wins! 

Who are some of your favorite YouTube families? Do you watch any of the ones mentioned above? 

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The Importance of Self-Love

*This was originally posted in June 2014 and featured on my old blog  =)*

Believe it or not my post today was inspired by last nights dose of ratchet reality TV. I’m pretty sure everyone is familiar with #LHHATL whether you watch the show or not and honestly it’s not the only show that puts an extreme lack of self-love in full view for the world to see. Reality TV constantly puts women (and sometimes men) in the forefront to be …. embarrassed (for lack of a better word). As I sat and watched all I could think about is how Mimi is too daggone old to be so dependent on the love of another person that’s she’s completely blinded to them taking advantage of her.

In my later teenage years I really struggled with loving myself. I was never really equipped with that kind of thing growing up and that’s not to discredit my upbringing at all because I was for the most part extremely happy (and I also believe generational patterns and cycles have a lot to do with things like this). But I was never taught the value of self. My first real relationship where someone “loved” me was even more damaging to me in terms of self-esteem and self-confidence. I honestly felt like at 18 years old I NEEDED to be accepted by this person who did nothing but tear me down in soooo many ways, disguising it as love. And I continued to portray the happy girl on the outside so that no one would catch wind of my insecurities.

Thankfully and (I honestly feel like) by the grace of God I met my boyfriend (who was of course a friend back then). He became a person I felt completely comfortable in confiding in and in the beginning of our friendship he taught me so much about loving me first. I truly believe that God can send you people to convey messages that you might not be hearing so clearly directly from Him. I could be completely wrong but either way our friendship was my saving grace. Leaving my old relationship I spent months and months working on me and building myself back up to a point where I felt like it was OK to just be me. I began focusing on my dreams and my own aspirations and it was a completely different feeling not needing someone to validate or confirm my emotions.

In any case, I said all of that to say to be successful in anything in life it starts with yourself. Validation and confirmation from another person will only take you so far. I feel more equipped now  than I ever have before to love other people because I trust myself to know the limits of that love. I trust myself to be an amazing mother and teach my son the value of himself so that he never feels the need to seek other peoples idea of his worth. And I know for a fact I’ll mess up. There’s no such thing as a perfect human-being but I’m glad I have an amazing support system to pick up where I lack. And I don’t depend on or need them, but it’s nice to have them there.

What’s the most important lesson you’ve learned about loving yourself?