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What to Do When You Suspect Abuse at School

When I picked RJ up from school a few weeks ago he was sitting at the table in his classroom pouting. This wasn’t that much of a shocker to me. He’s a moody 4 year old, he’s whiny and he’s a pouter much like most kids his age. But when I found out the reason he was pouting I was surprised. He told me he was in trouble for punching his teacher. Ummmm, what?! Of all the adjectives I just used to describe my child aggressive was not one of them. My child isn’t nor has he ever been a hitter. He’s a sweet kid, he’s a cuddler and sometimes he is just too dang friendly. So if I had to pin down one word to express my feelings in the exact moment he looked me in the face and told me he punched his teacher it would be… CONFUSED. 

In the moment all I could say was exactly what was in my head…. WHAT??? Why would you punch the teacher. I questioned him repeatedly once we got home about what exactly happened in the situation that would lead him to believe it’s OK to put his hands on anyone, much less an adult. The only thing response he gave me or his father as much as he asked was that he was afraid. This happened on a Friday and Sunday night rolled around and I mentioned the incident to his grandmother and in front of me he gave her the same response.

When I left, he had a completely different story.

RJ told his grandmother, after I had been asking him all weekend that he was afraid to go back to school because the teacher hit him. *cue another Ummmm, what?!* This time I wasn’t confused. The maternal instinctual feeling was rage. I had no idea how to even begin to process the 100% emotional reaction that I was having to my preschooler telling me that his teacher put their hands on him. Thankfully, the incident was resolved quickly and I’m comfortable with the outcome however, in the time we live in these happenings are become far to frequent. The news stories are highlighted everywhere and I’m wondering if people are listening to the cues from their children so that we can prevent these things from happening as much as possible.

What Do You Do When You Suspect Abuse at School?

Take a deep breath – I almost added this as the last tip but it needs to be said first. Breathe, assess and don’t react. Easier said than done, but reacting without assessing the situation could be detrimental in many aspects. It’s so important to collect yourself first so that you can respond to the situation as calmly as possible.

Watch your child – Children don’t always have the words to express what is happening. And even if they do, they may be nervous to share what they are experiencing. RJ repeatedly told me he was scared and refused to say anything else. Up until this particular incident he never expressed any anxiety about going to school. He loves to play with his friends and he loves the interaction he gets with both his teachers. Him expressing fear about school was definitely a behavioral shift, something that couldn’t go ignored.

Speak to the teacher privately – And when I say privately I mean without your child present. RJs situation turned out to be a misunderstanding (trust me, it was investigated fully) but I believe addressing the situation with the teacher privately is one of the most important steps. You want to be able to get a full scope of the situation without causing any more adverse negative effects. So in this instance, I didn’t want RJ to feel even more uncomfortable with being in the classroom in the event that he was to remain in that class.

Speak with school administrators – You want to have everything on record in the event that another situation happens. So even if the situation is “resolved” within the classroom it should still be brought to the attention of someone else and a formal report should be made.

Don’t feel any type of guilt. The safety of your child comes first.

Document everything – This again is merely another step in covering yourself in case you need to escalate. If you can have each meeting documented and signed by all that were in attendance so that there are no discrepancies.

Utilize the open door policy – I know in most cases we send our children to school with the expectation that they’re going to be well taken care of and you don’t have to worry, but if you worry then check in. My son’s school has an open door policy which I definitely utilize. Don’t feel bad about popping up unexpected. If you can check in unannounced, you may feel. It also gives you a chance to see the true classroom dynamic at any given time.

Change your child’s class – If it comes down to it, have your child moved to a different class. Both you and your child deserve to be in a situation you feel comfortable with. If you suspect or have a fear your child is being mistreated or treated differently after investigating the event, a change may be needed.

Stick to your guns and follow your instinct – This is a two in one tip. As a parent no one in the world knows your child better than you. Follow their cues, and your instinct if you feel something is amiss. You deserve to be comfortable with the care your child is receiving when they are away from you.

You’re doing amazing mamas! I’m so proud of you!

0 In Disney/ Entertainment

Disneynature Penguins: Getting Your Kids Excited About Earth Day

I’m not gonna lie, the Disneynature movies don’t get the same amount of love that other Disney movies get.  Unless you’re a one year old. If Zayn is excited about any movie coming out, it’s this one. He knows what the trailer sounds like and when he hears the commercial come on Disney Junior he’s running in from another room to catch it. It’s always adorable to see him gasp and point like it’s his first time. Every single time.

My kids are animal lovers. I’m pretty sure RJ has transferred his love of animals to his little brother. We frequent zoos, the aquarium and take all chances to get up close and personal with animals. The majority of their favorite movies involve animal characters and RJ spends a lot of time perfecting his animal sounds. It only makes sense that they’re just as excited about this movie as any other one. I’m also pretty sure that they think it’s going to be something similar to Happy Feet. They still watch that movie on repeat. Continue Reading →

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8 Kids Apps We Use Instead of YouTube

I’m not even gonna get too deep into explanations because I’m sure youve already seen the articles all over Facebook about the MoMo Challenge and the video that was found by a pediatrician on Kids YouTube that instructs children how to commit suicide. As parents its our job to protect our children. Plain and simple. There a understandably moments where unplugging is difficult, so if you NEED it, here are some alternative apps you can use to keep the kiddies off YouTube.

Netflix

We love Netflix kids programming. They have a range of movies, preschool programming, and loads of educational content. We love watching Disney movies (we’ll be sad when their gone) and one of our favorite Netflix original kids shows right now is Motown Magic.

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0 In Holiday Guide 2018

For The Procrastinator Mommy: Last Minute Holiday Gift Guide for Toddlers/Preschoolers

Disclaimer: Some* of the items included in this holiday gift guide were gifted to my family for their inclusion. Still, all recommendations come solely from me.

Christmas is less than two weeks away and I have to admit even though I always am mentally ready for it, I’m never ACTUALLY ready. Procrastination has always been my worst habit when it comes to pretty much everything and Christmas is no exception every year. I’m one of the people in the store the weekend before Christmas wondering why everyone else didn’t shop earlier so that my procrastinating behind can have more space in the aisles, and trying to figure out which one of my 108302 email addresses I haven’t used for a free trial of Amazon Prime yet (c’mon, you’re gonna act like you don’t do that?).

To top all of that off my kids are NOSY. I can’t open a closet door around here without their little nosy behinds running to see what I’m doing or getting so I tend to try to get their gifts at the last possible minute so that they don’t find them. So if you’re like me, I’m about to give you all the details on what’s hot this year for the littlest of littles in case you’re like me and you’ve waited until the last possible minute to try to figure out what you want to get these babies. Continue Reading →

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Netflix Original Series ‘Motown Magic’ is a Must Watch for The Whole Family

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I’m probably late to the game, but I just found out about Netflix original series Motown Magic. We were actually scrolling Netflix on Saturday night looking for something to watch to avoid watching Bo on the Go and Mickey’s Twice Upon a Christmas for the 808080th time that day. When James showed me Motown Magic I was immediately skeptical. I’m going to admit I never heard of Beat Bugs or Josh Wakely prior to this show, so I had no background to go off of. We showed RJ and his immediate response was “no I don’t wanna watch that.” LOL. We didn’t give him a choice, and within the first episode I was SO GLAD I didn’t.

** Mild episode one spoilers ahead**

Motown Magic follows the story of Ben, an 8 year old who lives in the city of “Motown”, who uses a paintbrush to make the street art in his neighborhood come to life. When the theme song started during episode one, we immediately got excited, The Jackson 5’s ABC is the theme song sung by 11 year old Zacary James. Episode one introduces us to Ben and his extremely talented family living in the city of Motown. Everyone in his family seems to know what their “thing” is but Ben doesn’t believe he has talent.

Episode one is pretty much when you realize the show is LIT. Each episode is inspired by a classic Motown song with a contemporary take. The song fits in with the theme of the episode and there is a lesson learned in every one. Even better for little preschool attention spans, each episode is only between 12 and 15 minutes long with the exception of episode one. By the second episode RJ and Zayn were dancing and singing (along with me and their dad) and all signs of “I don’t want to watch that” had left the building. A few more episodes in and my 4 year old started seeing himself in Motown. There was “Mommy! Ben looks like me!” and “Mommy, Ella has hair just like you!”. You cannot convince me that representation doesn’t matter to kids.

It’s Tuesday morning now and we’ve watched every episode of Motown Magic AT least once already and we’re on round 2. I’m pretty sure we’re going to check out Beat Bugs next since we’re late to that party as well, but I’m thankful Josh Wakely created a show where my baby can see himself, and we can all sing and dance to songs even my parents and grandparents love. It’s an amazing break from Baby Shark!

Have you watched Motown Magic yet with your little ones? Check out the trailer below, it’s easy as 123!