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15 Black Mommy Bloggers You Should Be Following on Instagram in 2019

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An article was released recently on TimeOut of the “The Best Instagram Accounts from Dad and Mommy bloggers to follow in 2019”. It was shared in a group of other bloggers that I’m in and before I even clicked it I already knew what the list was going to look like. We can make excuses and say “well they only featured 8 accounts” or “they couldn’t show everybody” and that’s fine if that’s what y’all have time for, but I don’t. In this great year of our lord and savior 2019, we have to stop asking for a seat at the table and buy, assemble and elevate our own! TimeOut’s list was cute, but that’s not my list. That’s not representative of the faces I see when I scroll my feed, and the women/men that motivate me.

We’re out here world schooling, and attachment parenting and living our best green lives just like everyone else. If anything we look up to each other even more now because our generation is parenting SO DIFFERENTLY than the ones that came before us. We’re open to learning and doing and growing. We’re just out here trying to keep out chakras aligned, glow up, create healthy coparenting relationships and manifest the best lives possible for our children.

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5 Habits All Moms Need to Take With Them Into 2019

Happy New Year! I almost can’t believe I’m sitting here with you guys in 2019! The year flew by and it was definitely, a year! Last year I made a whole list of goals, that I provably revisited once or twice when I wasn’t resharing it with you guys and that… kinda sucks. This year I am focusing on creating better habits, versus sticking to specific resolutions and I figured I’d share a couple of mine that are related to motherhood. Here are a couple things we need to remember to do for ourselves and our families this year. Continue Reading →

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I’m Sick of ‘Parent Twitter’

And I know I’ll probably be banished to some lonely corner of the Twitterverse where I’ll be slowly rocking back and forth and holding myself alone but, I could care less at this point. I meant it last night when it first came to mind and I mean it now as I’m typing this post. I hate parent twitter. Not to be confused with just parents on twitter. I’m talking about the very specific group of tweeters, you know who they are. 

And there are are so many different corners of the Twitterwebs so I’m sure I’ll find another group to partake in (#BlackTwitter never fails me), but I felt like the mom life corner was supposed to be my thing. Nah, it ain’t. If you search any type of parenting hashtag on twitter you’ll be sure to find all of these witty tweets. Parents tweeting about their numbered children and the snarky or clever thing they’ve said that millisecond, all in the name of RTs and favorites. Can we be honest? You nor your kid are that funny ALL day. Someone else definitely has copied a meme I’ve seen on Facebook and used it as their own tweet, only to get 749201 comments about how funny or clever they are like plagiarism isn’t taught in elementary school anymore. WHY ARE YALL LIKE THIS?!

Last night while I showered and washed my hair my 1 year old stood outside the door screeching at the top of his lungs the entirety of said shower. My emotions teetered between guilt and annoyanc and I thought about reaching out to the parent posse to see who could relate. Instead I changed my mind because, it wasn’t funny, or sarcastic or witty and I felt pretty confident that though I knew someone would be able to relate… my tweet would just sink into the abyss of things forgotten. No one interacts for realness!! Where are the parents that are living REAL life and want to interact?! Those are the people I’m looking for. 

Meanwhile you can miss me with the clever anecdotes about 4 pretending to sip your peppermint mocha this morning. I haven’t even had the chance to brush my teeth yet. But y’all are gonna get ALL this venting. 

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Fall Fun at Queens County Farm Museum

I love long weekends! Thanks to the holiday weekend we got an early start on our fall activities and we were able to check out the all the fall fun at the Queens County Farm Museum. The farms fall programs generally run on weekends from 11am – 4:30pm but due to the long weekend they were open on Columbus Day. We got there around 2pm (because we never get anywhere early) and the boys were excited to check out all the farm had to offer.

The Grounds

Admission onto the grounds is completely free. So you’re able to explore the farm and the pumpkin patch free of charge. Prices for pumpkins are based on size and start at $4. We actually didn’t take any pumpkins home because they were looking a little abused. I’m gonna chalk it up to first weekend excitement *shrugs*…. not sure, but we didn’t have that problem last year even though we went a lot later in October. The farm also has a huge corn maze which we haven’t checked out because the boys are just too young to care about it. They do have Maze by Moonlight on 2 Saturday evenings this month so that may be something adults are in to. 

I was actually surprised RJ asked to do the pony ride even though he’s done it before. Last year when he did it he was only JUST turning 3 and I didn’t think he’d remember. He definitely brought it up before we even got out of the car. It’s a cute photo opp but they do only walk the pony around once and it’s $4. The part of the farm the boys loved the most was the petting zoo. This is the part of the farm that has ALL the activities.

A Petting Zoo and More

Entrance to the petting zoo is $8 a person (12 months and up) and they give you lettuce to feed all the animals. This part of the farm also has tractors, areas for kids to climb/jump, a reptile farm and a “slide” area. This is obviously where we spent most of our time and where the boys ran out ALL of their energy. 

There is so much more to the farm that we didn’t even check out. Of course they have fresh vegetables for sale, food vendors, hayrides, bathrooms that aren’t porter potties (yasssssss God!!) & more! Click the arrows to check out more pictures from our day at the farm below.

What is your favorite fall activity? Do you take your littles pumpkin picking? Are you going to check out the Queens County Farm Museum? Lets chat!

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What’s On The Outside Counts: Why We Choose JOHNSON’S® for our Bedtime Routine

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I know I cant be the only one that feels like as mothers in the age of social media our decisions are constantly under a microscope. People are telling us whats best for our baby before they’re even born. You’re having a baby? You definitely need to breastfeed over formula. You had pizza at your one year olds’ birthday party? You’re horrible for not being a Pinterest mom and not serving homemade dinosaur shaped vegan chicken nuggets. Vaccinate? Poison. Don’t vaccinate? Selfish. What’s going into our child’s bodies is constantly critiqued and we often neglect to remember that what we use on the outside is just as important. 

I have super sensitive and dry skin so it wasn’t a surprise to me that in some form or another, both of my boys have the same issue. I was really excited to hear that with 50% fewer products,  JOHNSON’S® is new and improved inside and out. As a brand that we’ve all grown up with, I’m excited to have them as a part of the boys bedtime routine. 

If you know my children then you know ALL DAY LONG its a turn up. We try to make bath time the beginning of wind down time (so no joint baths or that’d be a disaster) & this is where  JOHNSON’S® excels. Both of my kids can win gold medals in the bath time swimming olympics so I love that JOHNSON’S® Baby Shampoo provides a mild, gentle clean that doesn’t irritate their eyes during bath time.

We follow up hair washing with JOHNSON’S® Bedtime Moisture Wash which, have you smelled lately?! It smells amazing and is designed to help relax babies before bed. Combining all of these things and finishing off with JOHNSON’s® Bedtime Lotion has made our routine not only smell amazing but worry free because there are no dyes or sulfates in their products. We can have the great smell, AND a clear conscience! 

 This is his new picture face. Boys, right? *eyeroll*

This is his new picture face. Boys, right? *eyeroll*

But seriously, I’m ready to head back to CVS and stock up on ALL the things (especially since they’re running a special Buy 1, Get 1 50% on Johnson’s® Baby + Spend $20, Get $5 ExtraBucks)! It’s a problem when I wander into that baby aisle, AND my local CVS has a good makeup section! Take. my. coins.

Are you thinking about what you put on your baby just as much as what they consume? What products are a part of your bedtime routine? 

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My Second Child Made Me Forget Everything I THOUGHT I Knew About Parenting |#MomTruths

I feel like I’ve always been a pretty confident parent. If there is one thing that parenting has taught me it’s always been to follow my instincts and to trust my gut. I’m definitely not a perfect mom but I know that I try my hardest every single day and as long as my kids go to bed happy then I’ve succeeded. 

That being said, being a mom to two toddlers… two boys… two wild little beings…. is HARD AF! When Zayn was first born, I felt like I had it pretty under control. Then he started moving…. and LORD did he start moving. 

I’m convinced Zayn has “been here before”. There are some days I wonder if he was ever even a baby. He is nothing like his brother was at one year old. He’s a runner, a climber (I’ve left the room several times to come back and find him standing on the table), he can throw a tantrum that rivals the big toddlers and he knows what he wants. RJ has always been a busy body but NOTHING like Zayn. I long for silence and dread it at the same time because that usually means hes playing in the toilet. He is definitely giving me a run for my money. 

All that being said I love being their mommy. I love watching them grow into their own little people and seeing how their personalities differ and how they love the same things. Motherhood is truly a journey and just when you think you have it figured out they switch up on you. I thought I had parenting pretty figured out but Zayn came to show and prove that every little person is different and they all need love in different ways. 

How are your kids different? Was parenting your second child anything like your first? Lets talk in the comments! xoxo

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The REAL Rules for Roadtrips with Small Children

  Special thank you to Mazda as I received the 2017 Mazda CX-5 as a loan free of charge for our road trip in exchange for my honest review! All opinions expressed are my own! 

Special thank you to Mazda as I received the 2017 Mazda CX-5 as a loan free of charge for our road trip in exchange for my honest review! All opinions expressed are my own! 

So I’m not gonna lie, when it came to planning RJs birthday trip I was super excited. As the days ticked down and it got closer??? Dread! I just knew I was plum crazy for planning a trip that would take us 12 hours to drive to with a 3 year old and an infant that hates the car seat! Wtf was I thinking?? Truthfully when road trip day (night) arrived anxiety almost made me cancel. I just knew it was going to be awful and it wouldn’t be worth it. I was sooooooooo wrong. Taking a long trip with two kids this young though did make me realize that the rules of the road are completely different when it comes to traveling with kids. 

1. Be prepared to spend some time in the back seat. 

Comfort played a big factor when we were thinking about the long drive. I knew I’d have to spend some time in the back seat between two car seats consoling one kid or the other and I was happy it wasn’t a SUPER struggle in the car we drove for our trip. The 2017 Mazda CX-5 had a decent amount of space in the backseat even with 2 car seats back there. I’m not gonna lie though I’m still SOMEWHAT small even after having two kids haha. I don’t think my boyfriend would have fit back there.  

2. Speaking of time, don’t even watch it. It doesn’t matter when kids are involved.  

I tried to plan our departure time perfectly. Both times according to their sleep schedule. I convinced myself that if we left during a time they were normally asleep that we’d have more time with them asleep in the car and it’d make the drive a little less painful. I think RJ woke up within 1 1/2 of us driving down with a cheerful “Good morning Daddy!” Ready to take on the day… at 5am.  

3. Don’t put a limit on stopping. You will stop. 100 times or more.  

When we road trip alone, my boyfriend makes it a habit to remind me 1000 times that he IS. NOT. STOPPING. He’s obsessive about getting to our destination and he always says “I’m stopping ONE TIME”. Ask to stop again and die. Except this trip. We stopped. I can’t even remember the amount of times but it was ALOT. Thankfully, we only had to stop twice for gas since the CX-5 averages 26 highway mpg. We got to stop at bigger rest stops and didn’t have to worry about just getting gas and leaving. Kids need to stretch their legs and everyone was a lot more pleasant after taking a break from sitting for hours. We stopped at Chick fil a’s that had play places so RJ could run some energy off and I even let him run around a rest stop at 5am *shrugs*. Sorry not sorry. We had a long drive and he wasn’t hurting anyone. A couple 20/30 minute stops made a BIG difference in how the drive went. 

4. The drive is still part of your trip, use it as an opportunity to make memories.  

I quickly realized RJ was just excited to be on an adventure. He loved looking out of the sunroof at airplanes and pointing out different things in the sky, and he loved sticking his head out of the sunroof even more. He also loved sitting in the trunk which is super spacious in the CX-5. He called it his cave! This is definitely a time to relax and not be super crazy with the rules. Within reason and safety first of course! He wasn’t sticking his head out the sunroof while we were driving or anything LOL. 

So basically, like anything with toddlers/infants involved, there are no rules on road trips! As long as everyone is comfortable, not screaming their. heads off and everyone makes it to their destination then I’d call it a #momwin! 

What has your road trip experience been? Have you braved the road with small children? Interested in reading more about the Mazda CX-5? Leave your thoughts below!

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Motherhood.. & How I Learned to Keep My Foot Out of My Mouth

**I wrote this post back in February of 2016 sometime and just found it in my drafts yesterday. I don’t know why I never published it cause it was (and still is) a relevant lesson. So I’m sharing it today… RJ is almost 3 now lol** 

RJs 15 months old! He’s such a big boy. Everyday he learns something new and it’s truly truly amazing to watch him discover the world. Being a mommy is so amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for all the freedom in the world. 

That being said, my boyfriend kindly reminded me that… RJ is 15 months old. He was all “Hey babe, remember when u judged XYZ cause she said she breastfed for 18 months…… RJ isn’t that far from it”. {insert my blank face here}. My baby is still breastfed & I have no shame in my game. People tell me all the time “it’s time to stop” and I ignore them because I’m amazing at not giving a crap what other people think about what I do with MY son. But truthfully, I’m ready for it to be over. And my boyfriend was nice enough to remind me of the golden rule of parenting: never say never!

You can read a gazillion and one parenting books and nothing will prep you for the real thing. I thought I was gonna breastfeed for a year and then magically my baby would be over it and we’d move on eating all kinds of regular food and live life. Sike! {takes foot out of mouth} I gave that girl my BEST side eye for saying she breastfed “that long” and here I am with no willpower in making the kid stop. There’s no end in sight! Swore up down and around my child would NEVER embarrass me in public & at 15 months old I’ve already left him tantruming in the middle of the floor at Target (aka our second home) because what the heck does he know that young? Besides the fact that he wants a reaction? Nothing!

Since becoming a mom I try to be very very careful what I say about people’s parenting choices or their children’s behavior because truth is…. you never know! And if your boyfriend/husband/partner is like mine he’ll remind you of that time….. & you’ll be eating your words later LOL.

What are some things you said you’d NEVER do before you became a parent that you find yourself doing now?