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I’m Sick of ‘Parent Twitter’

And I know I’ll probably be banished to some lonely corner of the Twitterverse where I’ll be slowly rocking back and forth and holding myself alone but, I could care less at this point. I meant it last night when it first came to mind and I mean it now as I’m typing this post. I hate parent twitter. Not to be confused with just parents on twitter. I’m talking about the very specific group of tweeters, you know who they are. 

And there are are so many different corners of the Twitterwebs so I’m sure I’ll find another group to partake in (#BlackTwitter never fails me), but I felt like the mom life corner was supposed to be my thing. Nah, it ain’t. If you search any type of parenting hashtag on twitter you’ll be sure to find all of these witty tweets. Parents tweeting about their numbered children and the snarky or clever thing they’ve said that millisecond, all in the name of RTs and favorites. Can we be honest? You nor your kid are that funny ALL day. Someone else definitely has copied a meme I’ve seen on Facebook and used it as their own tweet, only to get 749201 comments about how funny or clever they are like plagiarism isn’t taught in elementary school anymore. WHY ARE YALL LIKE THIS?!

Last night while I showered and washed my hair my 1 year old stood outside the door screeching at the top of his lungs the entirety of said shower. My emotions teetered between guilt and annoyanc and I thought about reaching out to the parent posse to see who could relate. Instead I changed my mind because, it wasn’t funny, or sarcastic or witty and I felt pretty confident that though I knew someone would be able to relate… my tweet would just sink into the abyss of things forgotten. No one interacts for realness!! Where are the parents that are living REAL life and want to interact?! Those are the people I’m looking for. 

Meanwhile you can miss me with the clever anecdotes about 4 pretending to sip your peppermint mocha this morning. I haven’t even had the chance to brush my teeth yet. But y’all are gonna get ALL this venting. 

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FALL for the East Coast – Captain’s Quarters Resort is An AMAZING Family Destination

RJ turned three 2 weeks ago and we desperately wanted to get out of New York. We’re trying to step our travel game up so when we got the opportunity to head to Myrtle Beach for the weekend it was a fast and obvious YES! 

We set out on our road trip EARLY Thursday morning and arrived at Captain’s Quarters Resort that evening. It was a LONG trip but we were immediately excited to get out of the car. No one was more excited than RJ especially since he had some birthday loot waiting for him once we got to our room. 

IMG_2121 from Tanay Howard on Vimeo.

I’m going to admit I’m a habitual trip checker and I researched everything up and down when I’m headed on a trip. I was sooooooo happy with our hotel choice and I knew after a good night’s sleep RJ was going to be EXCITED to check out the pools. Captain’s Quarters boasts an impressive 15 water features and we tried just about all of them! Myrtle Beach still has beautiful weather at the end of October so we were able to enjoy both the indoor and outdoor water features which RJ LOVED. 

Everything at the resort was super kid friendly and they truly pride themselves on being the friendliest resort on the beach. This was our first birthday trip, our first trip as a family of four and our first long stay away from home all together and I couldn’t have been happier with our stay at Captain’s Quarters! 

Fast Facts About Our Stay – Captain’s Quarters Resort Myrtle Beach, SC

  • We stayed in an Angle Oceanfront Suite. The view was beautiful (see below). Captain Quarters has a variety of room accommodations to fit families of various sizes. Accommodations can be checked out here
  • Level 6 Entertainment Center hosts a variety of games, 20 AMF lanes of bowling and a bar. We fully took advantage of the fact that each guest receives a free game of bowling per day!
  • Captain’s Quarters has several dining options. Our favorites were Loco Gecko, and the Vista 9 buffet-style breakfast. I’m bummed we didn’t get a chance to get a window seat because the view up there is amazing! 
  • The back of the room key is a discount card to a lot of local places around Myrtle Beach. Though by the time we realized this it was our last day, and the boys randomly got a cold so we took it easy most of the day. Check out all the places it can be used here
  • Fall and Spring are the best times to visit Myrtle Beach as the ocean waters are warm and inviting, the sunshine and ocean breezes are abundant, and there’s more elbow room on the beach.

Where was your last family getaway? Have you been to Myrtle Beach?  

My family and I were provided complimentary accommodations by Vacation Myrtle Beach to facilitate this review. All opinions expressed belong to LifewithTanay. 

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5 Instagram Accounts That Will Ignite Your Family Travel Wanderlust

For some reason this post was a lot harder to write than it should’ve been. I really had to sit and question, where are all the black family travel bloggers? If you do a quick search of the hashtags #familytravel or #familytravelblogger the lack of melanin is all up and thru there! I was slightly disappointed and for a minute I questioned if we’re still so busy buying Jordans and “doing it for the gram” that we STILL aren’t providing our children with experiences when it’s becoming even easier to find inexpensive ways to do so. 

Anywho now that my short little rant is over I have to say I’ve been bit with the wanderlust bug. Of course now, I’m 8 months pregnant and I can’t go much of anywhere so I’m hoping this baby comes a little early so we can fit in a late summer trip. But while I’m waiting these families on Instagram are giving me all the feels and reminding me that #blackfamiliestravel. 

1. @themomtrotter

Aiden: "Mom, can you take a picture of me under water?" . With the weather in the 80's yesterday, this guy spent all day in the pool. —- He starts his summer swim lessons next month and is super excited about it 🏊🏊🏊 —- Do you know how to swim? Do your kids know how to swim? And At what age did they learn how to swim without floaters? . . . . . . . . . . . #GoProHero4 #GoProKids #UnderWater #LosAngeles #HomeSweetHome #SummerReady #KidsSwim #JetsettingKids #FamilyGo #FamilyAdventure #TravellingFamilies #FamilyTravel #FamilyTravelBlog #TravelKid #ToddlerTravel #KidsTravel #TravellingWithKids #TravelWithKids #TravelKids #KidsWhoTravel #ThingsToDo #OneStateAtATime #FamilyOnVacation #WorldSchooling #TakeYourKidsEverywhere #ShowThemTheWorld #HaveKidsWillTravel #WeAreTravelMums #TakeTheKids #BringTheKids

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2. @thepreciousmommy

3. @thetravelingchild

4. @seejettfly

5. @heathergd

Loved the bright colours on the streets of #Cascais #art #instaart

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Are you following any of these beautiful traveling families? Who are some of your favorite family travel bloggers? 

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Mocha Mommies! – THE Ultimate List of Black Mommy Bloggers!

I started blogging back in …. 2013 I think under a different name. Back then I wasn’t a mommy or even expecting but the main blogs that I read were mommy blogs because I have a weird thing about being interested in other peoples lives (anyone else addicted to Family Vlogs on YouTube?). I read a lot of lifestyle blogs but I kept finding myself being drawn to more family/parenting oriented blogs and that’s still a lot of what I read today. 

When I became pregnant with RJ I searched for mommy blogs written by black women and they aren’t always as easy to find as the “other” blogs are. This really has so much to do with the fact that we aren’t supporting each other to our full capacity. Luckily, I became a part of an amazing community of women [BLM] where I connected with bloggers of ALL kinds but I still wanted to take the opportunity to put my mommy bloggers on the forefront. 

If you are looking for mommy blogs written by WOC then here is a list of amazing blogs you can choose from.

*updated March 2018*

Lifestyle/Family Blogs – Tips, tricks, & advice given from real moms about real life.

Frugal, Flirty N Fab

My Mommyvents

The Green Eyed Lady Blog

Ok, Dani

Unlikely Martha

Pumps & Circumstance

La La Land Mommy

Mommy Week

BeeSoSimple

MimiCuteLips

Aisha Adams

Love, Peace and Tiny Feet

Moms ‘N Charge

The Bernetta Style

YUMMommy

Mommy Posh

TheMrsTee

The Mixed Up Blog

Rattles & Heels

Lovely You Blog

Niecyisms and Nestlings

Cherish 365

FAB Haute Mama

Mother of the World

Harlem Lovebirds

Blessed Be the Tie

Normel Talks

MrsWrightWrites

Simply T Nicole

My Life with Him and Them

Mommy Can Learn

Lia World Traveler

From Carpools to Cocktails

Rich Single Momma

Product Review Mom 

Cleverly Changing

CouponWAHM

Black Moms Blog

Peace Filled Mama

Moms with Tots

A Life of Authenticity

Irie Made

SobeSavvy

Naturally Stellar

The Crunchy Mommy

Ms Naturally Random

Mamademics

Mommy Sees You

JenOni

Aprons and Stilletos

Its Me, Lady G

Travel with the Russells

Camesha

Mommys Dressing Room

Houseful of Nicholes

Brown Beauty Mom

Kendra Pierson

SassNSpunk

Green & Gorgeous

Nakisha Wynn

Mom of Girls

Wine’ing Momma

A Mom That Sleeps

BeBright Daily

Charlene Tanwing

The Kerri Chronicles

Three Boys and An Old Lady

Clarissa Joi

Nicole’s Lifestyle Lounge

Life in Pumps

Mommy Talk Show

Divas with a Purpose

Teniesha Biagas

Natural High

Gennatay

Jessica Simien

N.Chi’s World

My Mommy Flies

Tales of a Mommy 2 Be

Just a BX Mom

Sisterhued

Dellah’s Jubilation

Juggling Family Life

Unapologetically Shee

Fashion/Style/Beauty Blogs – Moms that bring the fashion game.

Frugal Flirty N Fab 

Hypnoz Glam 

So She Writes by Miss Dre   

Rattles and Heels

Bianca Dottin

Happily Ever Natural

Life in Pumps

Autum Love

Health/Wellness Blogs – Natural parenting, self care & getting your life together. 

Ok, Dani

Mommy R+R 

Brooklyn Active Mama

Peace Filled Mama

Orchids + Sweet Tea

N.Chi’s World

Deja Vu Organics

Healing Mama Remedies

Single Parenting – Mom’s that remind you that you can slay all by yourself. 

– Kaywanda Lamb 

Nakisha Wynn

Just a BX Mom

NYC Single Mom

“Unique” Blogs – Bringing you something a little different.

Walk One Day in Our Shoes – Walk One Day in this mom’s shoes as she shows you how autism effects her nonverbal 10 year old daughter.

Type 4 Naturals  – Kat is one of 3 contributors to Type 4 Naturals and writes about family on this “natural hair” blog.

Socamom  – A Carribean parenting blog 

The Mixed Up Blog – Raising multicultural children, culture and cultural issues.   

Belly Itch Blog – Parenting, Pregnacy and Celebrity Pregnancy  

Here Wee Read – A blog about children’s and adult books. 

Joy in the Ordinary – Chronicling the journey of an African-American homeschool mom.

Chaton’s World – A working mom’s quest for balance in stilettos (work/life balance).

Leslie Allison – Mommy vlogger.

The MOM Trotter – Have kids, will travel (Travel and home/worldschooling).

The Moms Guide – For the professional Mommy raising kids and balancing high powered careers.

 

And there it is! Explore! Find some new blogs to read! And don’t forget to tell them Life with Tanay sent you! 

Do you have a favorite mommy blog that wasn’t included on this list? Are you a mommy blogger that would like to be added to the list? Leave a comment below or feel free to contact me.

Looking to network/connect with other black mommy bloggers? Join my facebook group.

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We (Almost) Went to the Queens Zoo!

When it comes to getting out the house, we are sloooooooow! Like it takes HOURS for us to leave and there’s only 3 of us. I always say I admire moms with multiple children because I struggle to get just the two of us ready in a timely fashion. 

So when I planned to go to the Queens Zoo the day was no different. I woke up with every intention of getting out early, and making the most of our zoo experience. #FAIL. We got to the zoo at 4:30…… it closes at 5.

Luckily for us, the zoo is in Flushing Meadows Corona Park which is HUGE. Right across from the Queens Zoo they have a small petting zoo, so we walked over there so we would still get to see some animals. 

RJ was super fascinated by the animals and he didn’t wanna leave. I was so disappointed we made it too late for the zoo but it made me look forward to visiting another time. We have GOT to get our time management together! 

How are you ending summer? Do you have any small zoos close to home? How can I get my life together so I’m not late for everything?! LMAO

 

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5 Youtube Families That Take the Ratchet Out of “Reality TV”

Ratchet TV used to be a guilty pleasure of mine but now, passed Love and Hip Hop I just can’t get with the constant drama. Reality TV seems to bring out the worst of the worst in people and it gets exhausting seeing minorities (and even non-minorities) showing their typical a** (thats what my grandma would say) on national TV! C’mon son! We gotta do better! 

I freakin’ LOVE YouTube! You can literally find anything on that jawn and I LOVE watching family vloggers! It’s nice to take a break from ratchet reality and see people living out their real lives, minus the drama, & just spreading the love! 

Gabe and Chad of GabeBabeTV

Probably one of the most positive couples on the Tube, Gabrielle and Chad (along with Chad Jr. and O-face) are two of the most inspiring people to watch. Love, life and laughter radiate throughout their daily vlogs and they make it a point to share the positive with their “peeps”. If ever you’re having a bad day this is the family to watch to cheer you up!

Jamie and Nikki of JamieandNiks 

If you’ve never wanted to visit Australia before, Jamie and Nikki will change that for you! Jamie’s video editing and time lapses alone makes the vlogs interesting but now they’re sharing their journey as new parents to their baby girl Ava. This couple is just as beautiful on the inside as they are on the outside and that probably contributed to their fast subscriber growth over the passed year or so. Oh, and can’t forget to mention the Prince of the vlogs, hey Loius! 

Tiffany and TJ of the Daily Davidsons

From the pink room to baby number 3 (& house number two!) these two have their Darlyns and Day1s screaming #GOALS in the comment section of EVERY vlog! don’t know about anyone else but I have a hard time finding positive, young, black couples and I think it makes them unique in a sense (a lot of the bigger YouTube vloggers are either interracial or Caucasian). Plus from the TJisms to their three adorable boys, their channel is ADDICTING. If you can’t resist cure kids don’t do it, but do it! 😉

Patricia and Mike of BritpopLifeVlogs (The Bright Side)

If you get addicted to vlogs like I do, then you’ll be sitting with your phone in hand waiting on an update from Patricia and Mike. All the previous vloggers mentioned have a consistent/daily vlog schedule and that’s something they don’t have. But when they do upload it’s always worth the wait! Plus, new baby Grace is such a sweetheart! I’ve loved watching their family grow and Patricia’s blunt honesty about every step of her journey into motherhood. They are always up front with their viewers about what they are and are not comfortable with sharing and I think since becoming parent’s they’ve become a lot more open with their viewers. 

Latoya and Adam of Latoya’s Life

So if you ever watched one of Latoya’s vlogs in passing and then you read this title then you probably did a double take like… huh? LOL. Latoya’s life definitely brings the drama but it’s been pretty calm over on her channel since “Pumps” has been born and even before then you couldn’t help but notice the love from her family radiating all over her channel! Family love always wins! 

Who are some of your favorite YouTube families? Do you watch any of the ones mentioned above? 

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Our Super Quick Staycation – Split Rock Resort

My family was provided complimentary accomodations at Split Rock Resort to facilitate this review. All opinions expressed here are my own.

Last week our family went to visit a friend in Pennsylvania and even though we have a family house up there we wanted to take a “staycation” and take in some new scenery away from work and pretty much everything that was familiar. We had an amazing overnight at Split Rock Resort and I while I was actually pretty sad that we had to come back so soon, it was SO worth it.

 Excuse the grainy snapchat screenshot. This was the first thing he ran to though.

Excuse the grainy snapchat screenshot. This was the first thing he ran to though.

Pretty much anything you can think of that you would WANT to do, you can do at Split Rock. You pay a small resort fee and you get access to all the amenities and equipment that the resort had to offer. Unfortunately, we didn’t get to spend that much time exploring outside because it was a rainy ugly day and it was super late once we got back from visiting with our friend.

 H20ooohh Water Park! 

H20ooohh Water Park! 

H20ooohh! is the resorts indoor water park which boasts over 53,000 square feet of attractions. During the off season the park is open Thursday – Sunday and we were there on a Tuesday so we didn’t get to go in. We definitely plan to revisit. 

Split Rock has a variety of accommodations, and during our stay we got to stay in one of their bigger suites. Our room included a full kitchen, a living and dining room area, a separate bedroom  with an in-suite tub. It was beautiful and definitely one of the nicest rooms I’ve stayed in (sheltered life)! 

 This was my favorite part of the room! And RJs too! He loved taking a bath in the huge tub.

This was my favorite part of the room! And RJs too! He loved taking a bath in the huge tub.

The hotel has a couple different options for food so the morning we checked out I headed to Split Rock Grill for  breakfast. BABY!!!!!! Everything was delicious! The food was ready in about 10 minutes and I took it back up to the room since the boys didn’t want to get out of bed til the LAST minute. I enjoyed my breakfast silently… I’ll spare y’all the after pic but I did post it on snapchat. LOL. When they finally did get up we walked around the resort some before we had to head back to NYC and real life. 

 His little self was so excited and overwhelmed with the arcade. He didn't know which button to press first.

His little self was so excited and overwhelmed with the arcade. He didn’t know which button to press first.

Even though our stay was super short, we enjoyed being away from home. Most times when you stay away, you’re ready to go back home. This was not one of those times. We’re definitely going to look into visiting again in the summer when we can do more things outdoors and hopefully have a chance to visit the water park. If you’re looking for a quick staycation, a getaway from NYC, or a great place to visit on the east coast then Split Rock is it! 

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Trip to the Pumpkin Patch! – F& W Schmitt Family Farm

We got to go to the pumpkin patch this weekend and I was super excited! It was almost perfect fall weather (the wind was REAL) and I hadn’t had an excuse to go before RJ so of course I was ready for October to get here!

That’s my “Why are we always late?” face. We got to Schmitt Farms around 3:30pm and they close at 5 so I was nervous about not having enough time to see everything that I … I mean RJ… wanted to see. Of course my battery died so I didn’t get to take pictures, but my boyfriend got some great ones.

Schmitt Family Farm is located in Melville Long Island. Other than a pumpkin/vegetable patch, they have a petting zoo, pony rides, airbrush tattoos/face painting, multiple inflatables and a playground. I am super upset about my phone dying because I didn’t get to capture pictures of everything that we did but I can say that everything was super reasonably priced ($3 for the petting zoo, $0.74/pound per pumpkin and free hayride!) and it was busy so I can imagine it’s the go-to farm if you are in the NYC/Long Island area and aren’t looking to travel upstate. I also heard pricing-wise it is more reasonably priced than another farm local to it, but that’s only hearsay since I haven’t been there. My family enjoyed it, even my boyfriend who was resistant at first! I can’t wait to go back next year!

Check it out: F&W Schmitt Family Farm.

Do you have any fall family traditions? What’s your favorite fall acitivity?

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No One is Good Enough [Mom Confessions]

I’m freakin’ emotional! I was literally banned from watching the news my whole pregnancy cause I would cry to my boyfriend about any and everything! Postpartum the emotion hasn’t gone away. And sensitivity has brought it’s friend paranoia along for the ride! 


The news literally makes me feel like I may go crazy. Especially because something bad is always happening… somewhere… to someones child. Technically I guess everyone is someones child but I really mean babies. Yesterday I read about a man who shook his two year old stepdaughter to the point she was limp which cause irreversible brain damage. The little girl is now on life support and her family is preparing to take her off. 2 years old! And I’ve seen similar stories about family members harming/killing young children.

These are people that you least expect to harm your child. This woman trusted that man enough to marry him and to leave her daughter alone with him and he’s taken away something he can never give back to her. In less than a minute anything can go south and I am terrified of leaving my child with anyone!! More so because I get. My baby is 3 weeks old and he is a SCREAMER. There’s no crying lol.. He only has one volume. It takes about 30 seconds before I’m clenching my teeth myself so I understand how someone else could be frustrated hearing it. But it’s never crossed my mind to shake him.. Or cover his face to stop the crying/decrease the noise… Or hit him out of annoyance. And these are all things you see via the news or social media.

 Do I have to go back to work?! There’s gotta be another solution… Figuring it out…

Xoxo,
Tanay
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#TrueLife: I have a big (but not really big) family

I am getting an instant migraine just thinking about it. With only about 17 weeks (God I hope!) until BabyLove is here, things are starting to move super fast. Naturally, people keep asking about the words I’m beginning to dread hearing. I feel like if one more person asks me about a baby shower I’m going to burst into tears at this point. 

And you would think this onslaught of waterworks would be due to the fact that I’m not going to have one. But nope, the problem is everyone wants to have one, and everyone wants to do their own thing. “Too many Chiefs and not enough Indians” in my dad’s words LOL. Logic for me says one baby shower. Even though my boyfriend and I are not married, both his and my family are our son’s family. I don’t view my baby as having separate families. In my head when I think about my family I don’t separate them by where they are or which parent they came from they’re all my family. 

And getting some people to understand that logic for some reason just isn’t happening. I live with my grandmother, my mother lives with her husband, my dad lives separately also… that’s 3 different “families” on my side alone and that doesn’t even include my boyfriends side. I just don’t think it’s logical to want separation because that’s definitely not how the baby is going to grow up. 

I hate hurting people’s feelings but we all need to get it together, or someone is going to lose out. And it won’t be me of course because well… he’s mine! LOL.

xoxo,

Tanay