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The Black Girls Guide to Surviving Wedding Season When You’re Single AF!

If you know me you probably rolled your eyes and was like Tanay.. you have a man WTH are you talking about. Listen, when I file taxes I still have to check single so I qualify to write this post, ok! If wedding season makes you want to A) Throat punch anyone who posts about love on your timeline or B) Burst into tears because you can’t for the life of you figure your own life out then, this post is for you sis!

With all the excitement about the Royal Wedding that just passed among the multiple other weddings I have to attend coming up I am just about ready to lose my mind. Don’t get me wrong, I love all things LOVE. Weddings, fairytales, the idea of happily ever after… those are all MY THING. I am a hopeless romantic through and through. But I’m just honestly over here hanging out in wedding limbo, trying to find things to occupy my time so I don’t end up on SNAPPED! before I’m actually a wife. I’m still here, so I’m about to tell you some of the things I do that help me when I’m starting to feel wedding woes.

//Get A Hobby// 

That means one that doesn’t include scrolling social media because honestly, as a female we can easily find ourselves sinking down the “woe is me” rabbit hole in 2.5 seconds and then 3 hours later we’re trying to figure out why we’re still on the couch, scrolling iG, and we know the entire dating history of someone we never even met. No? Just me? Don’t lie! Get out and do something besides tweeting and snapping. Occupy your mind! Something as simple as reading a book is an amazing distraction. It keeps me off my phone and  I’m learning new stuff. It’s a win-win situation.  

//Get A Girlfriend// 

It’s not what it sounds like.  But your girl friends are (or should be) everything! Get you a friend that will show up when you need it and can lift you up mentally. Surround yourself with positive energy and good vibes. When you vibrate on a higher frequency then you attract more positive and abundance. Sometimes you need someone to put on Nice for What, hype you up & remind you that there’s more important sh*t to worry about. 

//Live in the Moment//

Sometimes that is way easier said than done, I feel you. But trust when I say you will be way happier thinking about the now than obsessing over the future. There is so much joy in the now. Focus on the things that make you happy and keep those in the forefront of your mind. Positive attracts positive. Gratitude attracts more things to be grateful about. Trust me. 

//Love yourself//

Because no one can love you better. Don’t ever forget that you’re bomb as hell, you’re hair is on fleek and your melanin pops severely! Confidence is one of the most attractive personality traits, so never forget that you slay! No one can ever validate that for you more than yourself. 

This whole post probably rings cliche AF, but I’m so positive that I cannot be the only one that needs these reminders. And if all else fails and you find yourself wallowing in the wedding season woes, don’t forget that most weddings have an open bar! 😉

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8 East Coast Festivals Every Black Girl NEEDS to Be At This Summer

Festival season is upon us and I suffer from major FOMO every year. I find that I always find out about festivals at the last minute and then I don’t have the proper time to get my life/coins together so that I can attend. After going to Curlfest for the first time last year, I’m determined to hit as many festivals as possible this year and I’ve created this list of festivals that are (mainly) on the east coast JUST so I don’t forget where I need (want) to be and when. If you love good vibes, good food and good music then you probably want to check a few of these out too! *festival names are clickable… you’re welcome ;)*

Governors Ball * June 1st – 3rd – Randall’s Island, NYC

Roots Picnic * June 2nd – Philadelphia, PA 

Essence Festival * July 5th – 8th – New Orleans, LA

Technically NOLA isn’t considered the “east coast” but if you don’t know by now that Essence is THE festival to be at I’m not sure how you even came across this list. Do you even festival?? 

The Greatest Day Ever * July 14th & 15th – New York, NY

Curlfest * July 21st – Brooklyn, NY

Panorama Music Festival * July 27th – 29th – Randall’s Island, NYC

Swing through @BrooklynSteel to peep the fresh mural 🌐

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Afropunk * August 25th & 26th – Brooklyn, NY

Made in America * September 1st & 2nd – Philadelphia, PA

There it is! Which festivals are you most excited about? I can’t wait for Curlfest and Afropunk! Hype to go to a festival that I didnt list? Not tryna go alone and want to meet up? Leave your thoughts in the comments below. xoxo

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So We’re Just NOT Going to Talk About the Little Black Girl in the Roseanne Reboot?

 Source: ABC

Source: ABC

We’ve gotten a couple sneak peaks of the show and there have been soooo many #QTNA. Dans alive? Where’s David? How the heck are they casting both Becky’s? How are they going to address the whole “all of this has been made up” thing that they just ended the series with? Do we REALLY need to mention Trump (ok maybe that’s just my question)?

But there’s also a lot buzz around some of the new characters. If you do a quick search for new characters in the reboot you’ll find many a post about Mark, Darlene and David’s 9 year old son that dresses like a girl. Countless articles address the gender nonconforming Conner kid and I think it’s going to be interesting to see how his character unfolds in the season. But if you haven’t seen any pictures of the upcoming revival and just caught the release of the new opening sequence the other day you were probably just as surprised as I was.

D.J., Roseanne and Dan’s son also has a child in the upcoming series. Mary is played by Jayden Rey and the teenaged, Nick @ Nite loving insomniac in me couldn’t help but feel excited when I saw her beautiful brown face bouncing around the Conner table in the opening sequence. I’m honestly sad that she hasn’t gotten as much buzz as other newcomers because I think the introduction of a black girl to the Conner cast is EXTREME for the show. I clearly remember the episode way way back in the day where D.J. wanted to quit his school play because he didn’t want to kiss his black classmate Gina. The episode widely addressed prejudice & of course I remember it clearly.

 Source: ABC

Source: ABC

I’ll admit, prior to finding out about Jayden Rey’s role I wasn’t all that excited for the reboot because I just don’t have time to give anything Trump-esque my energy but I’m interested to see how Mary is going to fit into the family. I’m praying praying praying hard that Roseanne doesn’t disappoint me and little Jayden gets her shine on. Let’s keep our fingers crossed. 

 Source: ABC

Source: ABC

How do you feel about the reboot? Vaguely interested? 

Roseanne returns to TV March 27th at 8 pm est. on ABC!