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Mommy Survival 101: How to Survive the First Year Without a Trip to the Asylum! ;)

RJ will be one in 2 months and I can’t believe I don’t have a baby anymore. He’s becoming so much more independent. He no longer needs mommy all the time and I miss it! I’m dreading when he really IS a big boy and he no longer wants to cuddle or needs me for food and all the little things he needs now. And JUST when I had the infancy thing down, he goes all toddler on me. *eye roll*

The first year of mommyhood has been NO JOKE. I’ve laughed, I’ve been close to tears, I’ve prayed, and I’ve plotted murder LOL (kidding =D). But I’m definitely giving myself a pat on the back because I survived it! I know I have 2 months left but I’m claiming the victory already! Year one down…. 50 or so more to go! LOL.

All that aside, I went into this thing with PLANS. I just KNEW what I was and wasn’t going to do or say or be. And I’ve learned and grown the whole time so I’m sharing with you the secrets to survival. Here goes…..

Perfect the “Smile and Nod.” This is for the sake of your sanity when it comes to dealing with the extras. If you didn’t already know, it’s a scientifically proven fact that once you announce your pregnancy, they pass out PhDs to all your closest family and friends. EVERYONE knows the “right way” to do some thing or another and if you don’t master brushing it off and smiling politely, your brain will melt into a puddle of unwanted advice. 

Go with the flow! When I was pregnant I just knew what I was or wasn’t going to do. For example I swore up and down that my baby was not going to eat any jarred baby food when he started solids. I think I’ve pureed ONE vegetable and Gerber has been our BFF. Plans change, things don’t always work out how you initially plan them to and that’s OK. You wanted to breastfeed but you change your mind to formula? You bought 50 boxes of disposable diapers but cloth diapering is working better? It’s all OK. Healthy and happy baby is really all that matters in the end. 

Your mommy instincts WILL kick in. This was one of my biggest fears when I was pregnant. I was like who the heck in their right mind is giving me a baby? I don’t know JACK about being a mom! What if I suck? What if I royally mess this up? But parenting is SO instinctive. You’d be surprised what actually comes naturally. And what doesn’t come naturally you learn! And you learn that mess faster than you’ve ever learned anything because everyone’s sanity depends on it. 

Don’t rush the next stage. Every single milestone is so exciting that as a parent you can’t help but say “I can’t wait until you do …” or “It’s going to be so fun when we can…” and you get so caught up in waiting to see what stage is coming next that you don’t appreciate the present. I couldn’t WAIT for RJ to crawl and now that he’s starting to climb everything I’m like dang…. I miss when you weren’t so mobile LOL.

Take the help! Coming from a super stubborn/independent chick, you’re going to need the help. Take that pride, tuck it in your pocket and save it for the time you want to showcase something really really amazing. Because guess what, no one is going to applaud you for trying to do it all. As mommy you have now taken on the most under appreciated (but most rewarding) job in the world. So if you’re offered help take it because that pat on the back you’re going to be waiting for…… yea…………. come back and let me know when you get it.  4

What are some tips you would give for the first year of mommy life? What helped you survive? I’d love to read your comments!

 

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RJs Christening

We christened RJ at church earlier this month and it was super important to me. I prayed so much during my pregnancy, probably the most I’ve ever prayed and I knew once my son was born he was going to be christened in our church. RJ has ALOT of Godparents, he is amazingly blessed. It also happened to be Family and Friends day at our church AND our 5 year anniversary so we had an amazing day and alot of our family and friends came to celebrate with us.

Sorry if the picture quality sucks. These are cell phone pics! =(

Do you have any religious or family traditions? Share in the comments!

0 In life

Top 5 Tips on Baby-Proofing for your Crawler/Cruiser

RJ is at the super exciting age where he gets into EH-VER-EEEEE-THANG! I am on the go nonstop trying to keep up with his little butt and make sure that he isn’t getting into anything that will hurt him or me or my sanity LOL. He isn’t quite walking yet but he can crawl between rooms in about 5 seconds and he cruises along the furniture like hes on a mission! I never imagined myself writing a post on baby-proofing but in an effort to help other mamas out I’m going to share what has been working for me at this stage.

1. Cover all outlets and keep cords out of sight! And I literally mean every outlet. Outlets are at perfect eye level for crawlers and there’s nothing more exciting to a baby than the unknown. I didn’t think my son would even acknowledge the outlets but he knows where pretty much every outlet is and his little fingers, toys, tongue are always exploring. If possible keep all cords out of sight as well. Charge your phone on a table or counter top and out of reach for the little grabbers.

2. Lock the cabinets. Because exploring is the theme of this post. Babies are nosier than grandmas (you KNOW your grandma lives in her window, MINE DEFINITELY DOES). I’ve caught him countless times trying to open cabinet doors. Thankfully I haven’t left him long enough to destroy a room but if left with the opportunity, my kitchen would be in disarray from him pulling everything out of the cabinet.

3. Cover all sharp corners. This is mostly for the cruisers. Learning to walk is fun for babies but I swear RJ forgets that he doesn’t have it down pact yet. He frequently just lets go and then hes flailing around when he remembers that he doesn’t know what the heck he’s doing. Covering the corners may be more for your own sanity because I swear (even though he can’t reach up there yet) that he’s going to hit his head or face on the corner of a counter or table or something. This tip is great for moms with coffee tables or end tables.

4. Don’t leave anything on the floor. Before baby, we used to leave any change that fell on the floor there (because “money on the floor brings more through the door”). Old sayings aside, did I tell you that RJ is quick? And those little hands are faster! At his age everything goes to the mouth so that leaves NO room for error. Shoes included, put them somewhere out of reach for the little.

5. Sweep/vacuum frequently. And this final one is definitely for your own sanity. With babies being curious they see every doggone speck! I can’t tell you the number of times my heart almost fell out my butt once I saw that hand-to-mouth motion and I thought RJ was putting something dangerous he found on the floor into his mouth and it turned out to be dirt or a piece of hair or something that’s just as equally gross but not life-threatening. I try (and sometimes fail) to sweep everyday because our house traffic is pretty high, and our floors are light colored so it’s easy for him to find little dirt pieces and my heart just cant take it.

What are some ways you babyproof your house? Looking for products to help babyproof? Check out my must-haves.

*This post is not sponsored, but does contain an affiliate link*

18 In life

Mommy-Life: Wubbanub Love!

If you follow me on instagram then you know I gave in to the paci. I swore up and down when I was pregnant that I did not want RJ to use a pacifier. I swore up and down when he was first born that he would get nipple confusion and that he wouldn’t know the difference and I’d never be able to breastfeed or my nipples would fall off (drama queen much?).

ANYWHO, that all pretty much goes out the window when you have a screaming infant who isn’t hungry trying to permanently attach themselves to you. So PACI IT IS!

Y’all know the pacifier struggle! You put it in their mouth… kid spits it out… it rolls under the couch somewhere into the unknown abyss of all things kids drop… I don’t have time for that! So whoever invented the Wubbanub had me on their heart!

The Wubbanub is a cute little stuffed animal with a soothie type pacifier sewn onto it. It is machine washable (perfect for when ‘Frogger’ needed a spa day) which has me a little skeptical but we’ve only had to wash it once. Very very practical for moms who aren’t into those pacifier clips and they are super stinkin’ cute! The recommended age on the packaging is 0-6 months but RJ just turned 7 months and I’m not ready to fight that battle yet.

We always get compliments on how cute they are and he loves both versions that he has. They come in a HUGE variety of different animals. Get on it yall! Make those bebes happy!!! =)

*this is not a sponsored post…but i do include affiliate links..plus he just really loves that thing and I thought I’d share =)*

6 In life

A Breastfeeding Mom’s Inner Monologue….

Before Feeding….


“I wonder when he’s gonna wake up..
he’s been asleep for pretty long…
It’s not time for him to wake up?
Hope he isn’t hungry.
What if he doesn’t know he’s hungry?
God I hope he wakes up if he’s hungry.
He has to be hungry my boobs feel like rocks.
Is that a lump? *feels boobs*. I hope that’s a milk lump.
How would I ever know if I’m abnormally lumpy?
Gosh my boobs are full… “

During Feeding….


“At least I don’t feel like my boobs are gonna explode anymore *sigh of relief*
Is he sleeping? Nope… Just taking a break.
He looks so peaceful… sweet baby.
OK kid… it’s not playtime. Stop trying to look around with my boob still in your mouth.
OUCH! Why are baby gums so sharp?
You better hope you don’t get teeth any time soon!
I have to pee…. I always have to pee *crosses legs*
Are you done?… No don’t scream… Shhhh shhhhhh
Why is this taking so long? How big could his little stomach be?
Why was that so quick? He couldn’t have eaten enough!
It’s fine.. take your time…”

After Feeding….


“Phew! Finally! My arm was going numb!
Awwww! Look at the cute little sleeping face. #milkdrunk
Now if I could just lay him right…….. CRAP… hes up!
I’m not re-latching you kid you aren’t hungry.
You can’t be hungry it’s impossible!
Shhhhh SHHHHHHHH it’s OK sleep baby!
Here you go… take the paci… shhhhhh
Why isn’t it working?
Oh good he isn’t crying anymore he’s just staring at me wide-freakin-eyed!
*re-latches*
I’m gonna be housebound the rest of my life. “

*This post was intended for humor. I love breastfeeding and wouldn’t trade that opportunity for anything at all! But we all have our moments and if you don’t then pat your perfect self on the back and know that I DEFINITELY have mine! LOL*

0 In life

No One is Good Enough [Mom Confessions]

I’m freakin’ emotional! I was literally banned from watching the news my whole pregnancy cause I would cry to my boyfriend about any and everything! Postpartum the emotion hasn’t gone away. And sensitivity has brought it’s friend paranoia along for the ride! 


The news literally makes me feel like I may go crazy. Especially because something bad is always happening… somewhere… to someones child. Technically I guess everyone is someones child but I really mean babies. Yesterday I read about a man who shook his two year old stepdaughter to the point she was limp which cause irreversible brain damage. The little girl is now on life support and her family is preparing to take her off. 2 years old! And I’ve seen similar stories about family members harming/killing young children.

These are people that you least expect to harm your child. This woman trusted that man enough to marry him and to leave her daughter alone with him and he’s taken away something he can never give back to her. In less than a minute anything can go south and I am terrified of leaving my child with anyone!! More so because I get. My baby is 3 weeks old and he is a SCREAMER. There’s no crying lol.. He only has one volume. It takes about 30 seconds before I’m clenching my teeth myself so I understand how someone else could be frustrated hearing it. But it’s never crossed my mind to shake him.. Or cover his face to stop the crying/decrease the noise… Or hit him out of annoyance. And these are all things you see via the news or social media.

 Do I have to go back to work?! There’s gotta be another solution… Figuring it out…

Xoxo,
Tanay
0 In life

Breastfeeding Chronicles [2 weeks Postpartum]

I figured I’d keep up with this breastfeeding journey since literally feeding consumes my life. All day there is a baby attached to me for some reason. I guess I don’t mind though cause he’s cute… And he doesn’t have teeth yet. LOL. A little glimpse into what breastfeeding has been like for me for the first two weeks…

  • The first week was the worst week of my life. He had a really poor latch at birth and when they tell you that a bad latch can lead to sore, cracked nipples… #jesustakethewheel… You don’t ever want to experience that.
  •  The lactation consultants at the hospital were crap. No one was able to help or explain to me how to get a GOOD latch. So the whole first week if it looked like he was eating I just didn’t bother him. Big no-no. And I didn’t see a good lactation consultant until his 1st checkup. 
  •  Because we both (me and baby) had no idea what we were doing I ended up supplementing with formula for like… 2 days. I thought he had nipple confusion from using a pacifier.. Which I then blamed on everyone in my house because I didn’t want him having it. And the latch got so bad that it was a fight late at night to feed him so I gave up. For 2 days I thought it was over for me feeding my baby. 
  •  My right nipple split completely open during the second week. To the point where I worried that my baby would become a vampire cause it was bleeding slightly and I didn’t want him to like the taste of blood more than the taste of breast milk. #dramaqueen
  •  But on a positive note it really does establish a different type of bond between you and the baby. Despite bleeding and the immense pain and the frustration during the first week .. I love the fact that I have something no one else can give my son. I love watching him and talking to him while I’m feeding him. I just love him. #obsessedmama

how could you not love feeding this little face?! lol #milkdrunk 

4 In life

23 hours… 8 pushes… 0 stitches!!

On 10|23|14 (2 weeks and 5 days early) I gave birth to the most amazing little person I have ever met! Didn’t I tell you guys he’d be an October baby? And at 2 weeks (and a day) old I am more in love than I have ever been!

Being a mommy is amazing and I’m truly loving every minute of it. People look at me like I’m absolutely crazy when they ask if I’m exhausted/tired and I say no. Cause I’m not. I don’t feel like I’m truly sleeping any less than I was before. Chalk it up to my past insomnia. And I actually LOVE the moments we’re up at night. He only wakes up twice during the night and I use that time (while breastfeeding) to kiss every little finger and toe… & stare at his big eyes.. & tell him my dreams for us. It’s probably the only time I’m not sharing him so I soak up every minute of it. It also probably helps that he’s such a good baby. He only cries when he’s naked… which makes me wonder if he was switched at birth because in my heart of hearts I’m a nudist lmao.

All in all, I’m loving being a mommy. So to everyone who thought my excitement wouldn’t last past pregnancy…. You were wrong *sticks tongue out*

Xoxo, Tanay

0 In life

{BabyLove}- what’s going on in 3rd tri?

Lemme just start off with a beautiful cliche disclaimer: Pregnancy is a beautiful thing. To know life is growing inside of you is amazing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world right now.

Now that that’s out of the way…. I’ll say it. I’m over it. I’m approaching 30 weeks in a couple days and I want this kid out (not really I want him to be as healthy as possible when he’s born)!!! Who told me I could do this?! I’m not built for this! LOL. Pregnancy does so much to your body that NO amount of reading can prepare you for. Thank God for YouTube! If I didn’t learn so much from there, my doctor would block my number from the amount of times I call her to make sure something is normal. 

I am now in the glorious third trimester of pregnancy where everything just seems to get bigger by the day. And by everything… I mean none of the important things that they tell you will get bigger. Like where are these great boobs I was supposed to get? Whomp! BabyLove is literally taking everything and I am ALL belly. I don’t mind because I love him to pieces and I know he needs everything he can get but geesh… A little boob never hurt anyone! LMAO. Before pregnancy I was 100 pounds… At almost 29 weeks I was 121! Sounds like nothing to some people but when you’re used to being THAT tiny all of your adult life… I feel like I’m doing a never ending gym workout. And don’t get me started on breathing! I actually went to triage at the hospital two weeks ago because this baby is SO big and I am SO tiny that he’s literally squishing my lungs and making it hard for me to catch my breath even laying down (I also can’t get too full because then the pressure from my stomach PLUS baby take up too much space in there)! I was worried about the amount of oxygen he was getting but of course the little brat was fine in there! But breathing is an everyday struggle that I still sometimes panic about because I have a history of asthma and you never forget the feeling of not being able to catch your breath. 

All in all though OTHER than not being able to breathe and wondering where my boobs are.. I’m thankful to God that I’ve had an easy pregnancy. I have nothing to complain about (though hormones always help me find something) and I’m just anxiously awaiting the little prince’s arrival and mentally preparing for motherhood. 

Life huh? 

0 In Faith/ Inspiration

Midweek Inspiration + A Letter to my Son

via Google Images

My sweet baby,

I can’t believe you’re almost here! I’ve carried you for 25 weeks and a few days now which means I’ll get to see you in about 3 months. You’re due November 10th but I have a feeling you’ll be an October baby (I want to call it intuition.. though it could just be my anxiousness to meet you) and I can’t wait until you’re here and we can start this next phase of life together. You have already helped me grow so much as a person and I know our experience will make me that much better;

of this I am determined

There isn’t an hour that goes by that I don’t think about you or wonder how you’re doing in there. You probably know this already cause I’m constantly wiggling you around to make sure you’re ok. That’s my job as your mommy. To make sure that you are always safe. I already wish I could keep you protected from this crazy world forever….tuck you away somewhere… but that wouldn’t be fair to you. Life’s experiences are what’s going to make you and sometimes it’s going to be hard, but

I’m always going to be here to motivate you, to wipe your tears, and to make it a little easier.

I pray everyday that I can fill your childhood with happy memories and that you don’t feel the stress or worries of adult life much too soon. 

You’re going to be spoiled.

There’s no doubt in my mind. So many people love you already and it’s amazing to be surrounded by such supportive people. Family is important and I hope you always keep that in the forefront of your mind. No one will love you as much as we do. Your mommy, daddy, grandparents, aunts and uncles… we all can’t wait to see you and watch you grow up. It’s almost like you’re every one’s first baby. Family also isn’t perfect but I hope that you always remember that while you may have differences,

God doesn’t make mistakes and your family is yours forever.

They are a little cray cray….. but you’ll love them just the same. 

I have such high hopes for you. I hope you’ll be a mommas boy (your daddy’s hoping otherwise). I hope you have your daddy’s passion and his drive because when he feels strongly about something nothing stands in his way. I hope you don’t get either of our stubbornness but that’s definitely wishful thinking!! LOL. But mostly I hope you never feel cheated or short of our love.

You couldn’t even begin to imagine how much you are wanted, anticipated and loved already.

Xoxo, 

Mommy

2 In life

#TrueLife: I have a big (but not really big) family

I am getting an instant migraine just thinking about it. With only about 17 weeks (God I hope!) until BabyLove is here, things are starting to move super fast. Naturally, people keep asking about the words I’m beginning to dread hearing. I feel like if one more person asks me about a baby shower I’m going to burst into tears at this point. 

And you would think this onslaught of waterworks would be due to the fact that I’m not going to have one. But nope, the problem is everyone wants to have one, and everyone wants to do their own thing. “Too many Chiefs and not enough Indians” in my dad’s words LOL. Logic for me says one baby shower. Even though my boyfriend and I are not married, both his and my family are our son’s family. I don’t view my baby as having separate families. In my head when I think about my family I don’t separate them by where they are or which parent they came from they’re all my family. 

And getting some people to understand that logic for some reason just isn’t happening. I live with my grandmother, my mother lives with her husband, my dad lives separately also… that’s 3 different “families” on my side alone and that doesn’t even include my boyfriends side. I just don’t think it’s logical to want separation because that’s definitely not how the baby is going to grow up. 

I hate hurting people’s feelings but we all need to get it together, or someone is going to lose out. And it won’t be me of course because well… he’s mine! LOL.

xoxo,

Tanay