I see you wanting to crawl into yourself and hide as a stranger makes small talk with you about how cute and happy your kid is. I know you hate it. But the very sight of your child bounding around in public is enough to make any stranger smile, stop and ask questions, and leave you hanging there in enough seconds of awkward silence to make you want to click your heels together three times and disappear. I know its hard.
Introverts don’t do small talk!
I hear you.
Not literally of course. But your silence speaks volumes. Your little is loud enough for the both of you anyway. And I know you’re spending a good portion of your day wondering if your little person needs to make noise and be in contact with people ALL DAY. As exciting as it is for them it’s draining for you.
You enjoy being alone.
I get it.
That after a long day of running, and screaming, and crying you just. need. time. And the little person you take care of is saying mommy for the 200th time….. that hour. You’re not sure if you’re going to make it. Patience is almost gone, and then the guilt comes. Because as much as you need time to get yourself together you feel bad that you can’t be more excited for them. It feels impossible.
I started blogging back in …. 2013 I think under a different name. Back then I wasn’t a mommy or even expecting but the main blogs that I read were mommy blogs because I have a weird thing about being interested in other peoples lives (anyone else addicted to Family Vlogs on YouTube?). I read a lot of lifestyle blogs but I kept finding myself being drawn to more family/parenting oriented blogs and that’s still a lot of what I read today.
When I became pregnant with RJ I searched for mommy blogs written by black women and they aren’t always as easy to find as the “other” blogs are. This really has so much to do with the fact that we aren’t supporting each other to our full capacity. Luckily, I became a part of an amazing community of women [BLM] where I connected with bloggers of ALL kinds but I still wanted to take the opportunity to put my mommy bloggers on the forefront.
If you are looking for mommy blogs written by WOC then here is a list of amazing blogs you can choose from.
*updated March 2018*
Lifestyle/Family Blogs – Tips, tricks, & advice given from real moms about real life.
Especially now following the Olympics, #BlackGirlMagic is literally oozing down my timeline. It’s everywhere, everyday, all the time. And it’s NEEDED. It is so important for little girls and even big girls to see that representation and have people remind them constantly that girls and woman that look just like them are doing amazing things everyday. I love it.
But I’m a boy mom. And I’m always looking for other examples of intelligent and inspiring black boys/men because I think about the examples I want to show my son all the time. It’s hard out here y’all. Is anyone else finding examples that I’m missing? I’m talking about beyond rapping and basketball. Boys aren’t celebrated the same way girls are. And if they are it isn’t nearly on the same scale as girls are.
RJ is brilliant! At less than two years old he sings his ABCs and dances/sings every time he hears music. He loves to give kisses and “read books” and he can work some electronics better than me! He’s a meanie sometimes, but everyone loves him. He is learning sooooo quickly and I can’t wait to see what types of things he loves to do as he gets older/smarter.
I asked some of my mommy friends to share why their sons were brilliant. Check out the gallery below to find out why other boy moms agree that #blackboysarebrilliant (and click the pics to check out some other great blogs!).
Are you a boy mom? Auntie? Sister? Leave a comment below and share why you think #blackboysarebrilliant. Follow me on Instagram, and share a picture using the hashtag #blackboysarebrilliant! The world deserves to know. ;).